When I threw my back out on Monday, I was forced to let go and Ask for help. I asked for help from my hubby, my kids, a co-worker, a stranger walking down the street, my fellow yoginis, my son’s teacher, my daughter’s friend…the list goes on. Guess what? No one, said “No Jenny, screw off and do it yourself.” Not a one. This experience is reminding me, teaching me that I don’t have to wait for my back to go out to ask for help. My back going out is my lesson, my teacher to be willing to ask and open to receive.
Oh, no I got it. I’ll be fine. I can handle it. I don’t mind.
When was the last time you spoke one of these nonsensical sentences when someone offered you help? You were lying weren’t you?
Before you were offered help you were more than likely mumbling at your own pity party something like, It would be nice if I had help. I’m the only one that ever does anything. Then the help came and you said something completely asinine, like, Oh, you are so sweet to offer, but it would take me longer to explain then to just do it myself. Thanks though.
How far off am I?
When was the last time you offered help to a girlfriend and she replied, It’s okay, I planned on doing it anyways.
Liar, liar pants on fire. That’s what you should have said back to her, right? Or, Bitch be real, let me help. Would have that helped her to cave in and say yes?
What is it with us? On one hand we want help while on the other hand we think it’s less complicated to handle on our own and on the other hand, wait…you only have two hands. So stop right there. Yes, we all have our reasons but here is the deal, receiving help is good for the planet let alone your personal health. Receiving help is an opportunity to make someone elses’s day.
Asking for help totally empowers others at the same time it strengthens you. They feel like they have a purpose and you find new muscles. Muscles that remind you that you are not alone and you are the one standing in your own way of getting help. You eventually feel lighter when you are willing to let go of your control reigns. Being needy is not a bad thing. Having needs is what we humans do and they other humans are there to help meet your needs. Forget what your mother told you, what that one teacher said or your father’s opinion. Asking for help is necessary if you ever want a full cup, vital if you care about yourself and 100% essential to model for our children.
Ask lovingly. Be ready to receive and just shut up already about doing it all. Don’t be such a ball hog and let others play.
Where in your life can you not only ask for help but be willing to receive help when it is offered?
Cheers, Jenny
