I had a marvelous conversation with Kayla Huszar on her podcast, Chill Like a Mother. This art therapist, social worker, podcast extraordinaire discussed ways to plug in, get grounded, find your center and refill that everyone can create time for.
It’s about presence. It’s about surrender. It’s about this moment, right now.
Do you live in the past or future? It is so easy to be everywhere but here, especially when now and here, are challenging and difficult. We want to escape, avoid, and ignore.
Quick ways to start your day:
- Sit up in bed, prop a pillow behind you and breathe.
- Before getting out of bed, commit to doing ONE thing for you.
- Ask yourself what ONE word will anchor you today?
- Have that one Anchor word be your mantra.
- Calm. Peace. Breathe. (whatever speaks to you)
- Decide one thing you will take off of your list: a task, belief, thought or expectation.
Quick methods to get present:
- Stop, feet on floor. Pause. Say Thank You.
- Stand where you are, close your eyes, count to five.
- Drink a glass of water.
- One inhale, one exhale.
We often think that we can only get present by leaving our chaos behind and by immersing ourselves into a week-long vacation on a tropical island. Most of us don’t have access to that kind of refill. I will argue until the cows come home and I wrote an entire book on the topic of refilling by committing to easy, applicable tools that I share not only in my book but with my life coaching clients.
Getting present will solve most of the problem. Worrying about the future takes up so much head and heart space. If you can plug into your breath and the moment you are standing in not only do you calm down but so do the people around you.
If you are feeling taxed, spent, overwhelmed or are spinning so fast–this is your invitation. Stop. Feel your feet on the ground. Breathe. Say something kind to yourself. The only thing you can control is your response, let everything else go. It is not your job to fix everything or everyone. Be. Here. Now.
This, I am not exaggerating, will shift EVERYTHING.
The biggest refill is not losing ten pounds or going on a vacation, it is coming home to yourself, body-mind-spirit. Plugging into presence. Then this is your practice. Your work. Practice coming back to now.
When you can get a grasp on that and yes it may mean practicing all day long, over and over, then you will experience laying down a new foundation for yourself. From there you can tune in to what is really needed. You may need to put up your feet, step outside, brew a cup of tea or call a friend. It is in these small refueling activities that we remember what matters most to us.
Give a listen to the podcast. Enjoy. You have everything you need. You are okay. All is well.
Cheers, Jenny
